You don’t have to have any conversation you don’t want to have.
You get to (need to) decide what conversation you want to have.
Write those down. They’re two of the most important truths you learn when you start working on your cold approach abilities, and they’re at the core of the Transition stage of the Love Systems Emotional Progression Model. (link goes to our Triad Model page)
When we first started teaching dating science formally, we omitted the Transition step in our formal model, but eventually Savoy realized that anyone who was actually staying in an interaction with girls and eventually taking them home was guiding the conversation away from whatever opening line/routine he used with some kind of transitional material. As I’ve noted here several times the ultimate bugaboo in learning how to seduce strangers is the question of What to Say Next*. Transitioning is the first step on that bridge to the rest of the conversation, and thus warrants its own phase in the EMP.
As I’ve taught over the last few month and pushed the concept of transitioning, I’ve started to realize it’s not a stage at all. If you clicked the above link, you’ll notice that we say, “Transition (if necessary)”. I would submit that while the FIRST transitioin, i.e. the words said off your opening line, if you have an opening (again, that’s labeled as “if necessary”), and the, is optional, the ability to transition is a hallmark skill of cold approach. And it never ends. One of the attraction switches we teach at Comprehensive Boot Camps is the concept of Leadership. Women want a guy who will take charge of a situation. That trait manifests in conversation by a willingness and capability to steer your exchange where you want it to go. Sometimes, especially in the initial stages, this kind of transitioning is mostly about keeping the conversation alive. Other times, such as when she talks about her boyfriend or dead friend or starts into the Uber-Boring Routine**, the ability to transition is the ability to corral her feelings away from negativity or boredom. Call it the gift of gab, call it improvisation–we have a class for that, by the way–but learning how to change from topic to topic on the fly is a critical skill in dating science. It’s one of the skills that really separates the men from the boys.
*–Does Daddy love initialisms? Yes he does. And so W2SN was born.
**–Initialisms give me a boner. Uber-Boring Routine = UBR = Where are you from? What do you do? Where did you/do you go to school? What did you/are you study/studying?
