Futuristic Words

Every workshop I start my programs with the eight rules I think will help anyone trying to turn their dating lives around. They are simple tools to avoid the heartache and the thousand natural shocks automatically attached to something as dramatic as relearning your love life. Over the next few days I’ll cover each one in turn.

#1: You are going to get rejected.

I don’t care how good someone says he is, some girl has turned him down. I don’t care if you’re Usher or Bon Jovi, some girl has turned you down. Donald Trump or Richard Branson, some girl has turned you down. A lot of times it’s just your approach. Much of our literature at Love Systems harps on this idea. When a girl does not know you she cannot reasonably reject you, the person, she can only reject the sliver of you she sees when you walk up to her. This includes your body language, your style, your halitosis or lack thereof, your loser friends, your voice volume and tonality, and all the other things we talk about when we talk about non-verbal communications at Love Systems, formerly the Mystery Method (cf. Cajun Mr. M, and Vercetti’s new workshop, Magic Bullets, any LS comprehensive boot camp).

Sometimes it’s not even your game, it’s literally that one approach. I get rejected nowadays, especially when I’ m warming up. Your friendly neighborhood Future is not shy about his being an emotional, high-energy nerd. Sometimes I’m uncalibrated on my initial approaches for the day or evening. If you get to see one of these classic blowouts at 9:30am on the 6 train, I won’t begrudge you for laughing. It’s damned sure not my game. Sometimes I am in the middle of girl drama. Sometimes I have other thoughts weighing me down. Sometimes I’m just tired. There is no failure until I decide to stop trying, though.

Then there’s the other part of the equation: you’re talking to another human being, someone with thoughts, experiences, and emotions all her own. I was saying something along the lines of the above to my natural friend a few weeks ago, and after he’d heard the bit about rejecting the approach he said, “Yeah. Or she could just be a bitch.”*

While it’s true that you can use dating science to massage a girl’s emotions toward sexuality and romance with the techniques we teach at Love Systems, it’s not guaranteed. There is no magic bullet; our textbook is named ironically. Some women are married to their misery, and they’re going to be unpleasant no matter what. Sometimes they’re just heap strong women and can immediately tell they’re not attracted. And sometimes she just broke up with her boyfriend, her pet died, or her mother or best friend said something horrible to her right before she went out that night. You have no idea.

You have no idea.

You don’t know whether or not she’s going to reject you until you try.
You don’t know whether or not he’s her boyfriend.
You don’t know whether or not you’re her type.

If this sounds a lot like what I talked about in my article on frame control, good. Know well that if you can’t get past thecertainty that you will be rejected by thousands of women you cold approach on your path toward improving your relationships, your road will be long and hard.

Next up, #2: Talk to girls.

*—Fun side note. My mother supports me in all my endeavors, including my role as a Love Systems instructor. She agrees that we do missionary work largely because she sees being boring and uninteresting in social situations as a sin. Her support is especially funny when my relationships hit their twilight. If the girl has been anything other than supportive she will often say matter-of-factly, “Thompson, it might not be you. Some women are just bitches.” Sometimes I feel like she should teach the frame control section of my workshops.

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