Posts tagged ‘infidelity’
Porn, Fidelity, and Masturbation
When I think about my future wife, especially the mother of my future children, it really worries me that I won’t stay faithful. My eye wanders, and my skill is always going to be in my back pocket. I like to hold an image of myself as a good man by whatever relativistic standards I judge myself, and whatever else I am, I consider cheating on my significant other to be anathema (although I’ve done it in the past) and I have little faith in open marriages. Not for you, by the way. Maybe your open relationship is a case study, but I know my instincts and my guts and my proclivities, and I promise I’d be too territorial, and I kind of expect a little bit of that from my wife as well.
Does that mean I have to marry an idiot? Do I have to entwine myself with someone who’s hot but not quite sly enough to catch my wandering, or someone who’s submissive enough, enough of a whore in spirit, that she won’t protest my dallying? Should every guy or girl just get a cheat week? I don’t really have an answer. I know I don’t want to be the sort of husband who cheats on his wife, but I know how I bristle when I feel my priorities being folded into my woman’s. Is that churlish and adolescent, or is it another slit in another veil I have to machete. I came from a married couple, after all, and I’d like the chance to be a better father than mine (you’ll probably never read this, but I love you, Dad.). What sort of lesson do I teach my daughter if I’m out banging strange whenever I get bored or annoyed with Mommy?
More after the jump.
